Just a thought

I struggle with sexual sin. I struggle with lust like many people. I have natural God-given desires for marriage and companionship and sexuality but because of this fallen world and my past I also have love needs that were not met when I was little so I carry over these needs into my natural God-given desires and they get blown way out of proportion and it leads to sin because I am now trying to get love needs met through sexual desire and a relationship with a male. This not only leads to sexual sin, and unhappiness I might add because men cannot meet my love needs anyway, but it leads to idolatry. Ok so that is the foundation so here is my question, God I know that you are healing me and reshaping my heart and belief systems to trust you and get my love needs met in you. I am not blind I see that but in the men time until these things are completed and that ability finally reaches my heart, because boy have I been waiting, how do I take care of these sexual needs that are being blown way out of proportion? They are there and they are strong. It is not working for me to them just wait until you are married, just wait until God heals your heart and you have all the love you will need then you won't want sex anymore until you are married. Yeah right! It is not working telling myself to wait so I find myself turning to other means such as food, smoking, and lustful means. So what do I do? How do I deal with my sexual desires and my love needs and wounded heart while all of these things are in the works because I don't want to sin and I am not saying that I did not choose the sin but I can see that not having a godly outlet for them in the meantime is making it harder to say no. Please help me God. Give me some good answers because I know that you know. In Jesus name.